Whether or not you see it coming, nothing can prepare your mind or body for a divorce. Often the shock and pain of a failed marriage can take a toll on your physical health leading to various complications. While you may not be able to pick up the pieces of your relationship, you certainly don't have to let a divorce destroy your life. Here are tips to cope with stress post a divorce and prevent it from affecting your health.
Keep yourself occupied
It is important to keep yourself occupied. Work around your routine and add new things to it. It is very important that you try and fill up the time you would normally spend with your spouse with something else. If there is something you’ve been wanting to try out for a long time like Rumba classes or violin lessons, now is the time to give it a try. If you were afraid to try different kinds of clothing previously, it's time to take yourself shopping and do some sartorial experimentation.
Give yourself time to recover
“Plan your day well in advance so that you are not left staring into the void or sulking,”. At the same time, it is important to give yourself time to recover. “Don’t forcefully stop your thoughts; let them come and go. But don’t ruminate on them. There is no point in being in denial. Accepting the situation is the first step to recovery. Also, do not ignore your thoughts. Talk to your close friend or mother. “Getting it out makes it easier to move on.
Take a break
Do more and more activities that you enjoy and make you feel good about yourself. But remember that self importance is the goal and not self obsession. “Another way to break out of the stress is to be in the moment. Avoid visiting the past and analysing and re-analysing things. It will only push you into depression. Concentrate on the present. Focus on making your current life better. Give yourself a break, go on a much-needed vacation- either alone or with a bunch of friends. It will help you come back refreshed to face any situation head on rather than running away from it.
Avoid substance abuse
Avoid depending on substances like smoking or drinking. It might harm your health. And still if you find yourself feeling sad or angry at times, tell yourself that it is normal to have these feelings; respect your emotions. Also, be absolutely certain you are ready before you start dating again. “Take one step at a time. Start by hanging out with friends who are likely to set you up, go for a couple of friendly coffees and then go ahead with the new relationship.
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